The answer you would get from most people is “I don’t know I was
supposed to be celebrating myself?” I think that answer by itself, would show the type of lives most people live.
A lot of people don’t know they need to celebrate THEMSELVES first before any
other thing.
Take a good look at yourself and start to outline all the things
you are grateful for. Life must be enjoyed and not endured. There are some
steps you need to take to identify how to celebrate yourself from now on.
What do you need in order to start?
Start off by asking yourself
the following question daily: “Dehinde, what do you need?” to your daily
practice of asking what you celebrate about yourself. It would become apparent
to your that maybe you don’t know who you were or what you should be
celebrating about yourself because you never recognized your own needs.
A lot of people are afraid of
being “needy”. It’s often associated with a sense of being overly clingy
or even desperate. And that was exactly what you don’t want to project
out to those around you. So you stuffed your feelings and ignored your needs.
You turned into the person who never asked anything of anyone, never had an
opinion, never rocked the boat, just existed. And all of that would really get you
repeatedly being used as people’s doormats.
Changing your perspective
The truth is that everyone has needs. It’s unhealthy not to have needs. You need love, you need
positive human contact and healthy relationships. You need to be seen and
heard without judgment and you need whatever is unique to you to be who you are
as a whole person. When you ignore those needs you deny who you are and
if you deny who you are how can you ever expect to know how to celebrate
yourself?
Try to more open minded and be ready to
accept change anytime it comes. Being resistant to change is self limiting and reduces
your ability to reason properly.
Process for Celebrating Yourself
The steps you need to take to celebrateyourself includes the following:
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You ask for what I need,
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You receive it,
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You celebrate myself for asking,
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And then fight your own negativity and criticism that says you
are messing everything up by being so vulnerable and needy.
This is a process. You
have to respect it and know that despite how hard it is, that you are worthy of
having needs so that you can discover who you are, embrace that person and
celebrate all the things that make you, uniquely you.
