What do you celebrate about yourself?

The answer you would get from most people is “I don’t know I was supposed to be celebrating myself?”  I think that answer by itself,  would show the type of lives most people live. A lot of people don’t know they need to celebrate THEMSELVES first before any other thing.

Take a good look at yourself and start to outline all the things you are grateful for. Life must be enjoyed and not endured. There are some steps you need to take to identify how to celebrate yourself from now on.

What do you need in order to start?

Start off by asking yourself the following question daily: “Dehinde, what do you need?” to your daily practice of asking what you celebrate about yourself. It would become apparent to your that maybe you don’t know who you were or what you should be celebrating about yourself because you never recognized your own needs.

A lot of people are afraid of being “needy”.  It’s often associated with a sense of being overly clingy or even desperate.  And that was exactly what you don’t want to project out to those around you.  So you stuffed your feelings and ignored your needs.  You turned into the person who never asked anything of anyone, never had an opinion, never rocked the boat, just existed. And all of that would really get you repeatedly being used as people’s doormats.

Changing your perspective

The truth is that everyone has needs.  It’s unhealthy not to have needs.  You need love, you need positive human contact and healthy relationships.  You need to be seen and heard without judgment and you need whatever is unique to you to be who you are as a whole person.  When you ignore those needs you deny who you are and if you deny who you are how can you ever expect to know how to celebrate yourself?

Try to more open minded and be ready to accept change anytime it comes. Being resistant to change is self limiting and reduces your ability to reason properly.

Process for Celebrating Yourself

The steps you need to take to celebrateyourself includes the following:

·         You ask for what I need,

·         You receive it,

·         You celebrate myself for asking,

·         And then fight your own negativity and criticism that says you are messing everything up by being so vulnerable and needy. 

This is a process.  You have to respect it and know that despite how hard it is, that you are worthy of having needs so that you can discover who you are, embrace that person and celebrate all the things that make you, uniquely you.